About two years ago, I decided to take a good look at my life and reflect on everything around me. Many questions arose during this process. Who was I hanging out with, what was I watching, what was I reading, what was I doing, but most importantly, who was I becoming? And to my surprise, I wasn't proud of most of the answers to those questions.
I felt as though my life was not moving forward. I wasn't accomplishing or doing anything. I was becoming stagnant.
"I always wonder why birds stay in the same place when they can fly anywhere on the earth. Then I ask myself the same question."- Harun Yahya
I slowly started changing my perspective on life and myself. One of the very first things I did was evaluate the people around me. What value were they bringing into my life? It may sound selfish, but that's how you have to view friendships. If they're not supporting you, motivating you, inspiring you, challenging you, or genuinely caring for you, then honestly, they have no room in your life.
I quickly detached myself from a lot of friendships. Not because they were bad people, but unfortunately, they were just not on the same path I was embarking. And that's ok. That's part of life. That's part of growth.
Once you make one positive change in your life, everything else seems to follow. You'll discover that your interests and how you view life in general will change. I've had many people praise me for these changes. But at the same time, I've also had people question my new lifestyle. Some even saying that I wasn't the "same" person anymore.
Well, that's kind of the whole point.
For the first time in my life, I have dreams and aspirations for myself. I'm making better choices. Choices that are taking me a step closer to achieving my goals.
You have to be confident and strong enough to make these type of changes in your life. They're not easy and sometimes people will question them or try to bring you down. You just need to surround yourself with good people, stay true to yourself and continue on your path.
What you think of yourself is much more important than what people think of you.
At the end of the day, it's your metanoia. Do what makes you happy. There is no better reward than being proud of the person you've become.